Do you ever have those times when you
feel as if life has just smacked you down? One minute you're on top
of the world looking around you with joy and wonder, then, suddenly,
you find you've faceplanted in the pavement. Well, I know enough
people who've gone through something similar to that this in the
recent past to hazard that, at one time or another, you have too -
probably in the context of a relationship, although not necessarily.
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| Eponine |
Well, I recently had the pleasure of
viewing the film adaptation of the stage production of Victor Hugo's
Les Miserables. I would like
to take this opportunity to highlight the breif but beautiful life of
my favorite character, Eponine Thenardier. I promise that this
relates to my beginning, but first, some back story.
Eponine was born to
two horrible parents who made their living by cheating, stealing,
conning, and blackmailing anyone. When she was a child, they spoiled
her rotten an when she grew older, they expected her to pull her
weight in the family business and she did. But unlike her parents,
Eponine did not care much for the twisted life she was born into, and
began to look for other interests besides gaining at the expense of
others.
Then she met
Marius. He was everything she wasn't. She was poor, he was wealthy.
She was a street urchin, he was a student. She was jaded and
wounded, he was hopeful and idealistic. She was a little nothing,
and – to her at least – he was everything. There was only one
problem. Marius did not feel the same way about Eponine. At best, he
viewed Eponine as a good friend, but most days he barely seemed to
notice her. Still, she was content just to be near him.
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| Epnonine realizes that Marius love Cosette |
Then, one day,
Eponine's worst nightmare became reality when Marius fell in love
with a soft, innocent, beautiful, and wealthy young lady, by the name
of Cossette.
Eponine was
devastated. How could this be true? Marius who barely noticed any
woman beyond his books and his revolutionary ideas, finally had that
look that Eponine had dreamt so many times of seeing in his eyes, but
it was not for her. No, it was for Cossette, a girl who Eponine knew
as a child under quite different circumstances.
Marius knew nothing
about Coessette, not even her name. Knowing Eponine's street smart
ways, Marius turns to her to help him find Cossette. The fate of
this budding romance was completely in Eponine's hands, but Marius'
pleas could did fall on deaf ears and she agreed to help him find his
love.
She led Marius to
his love and kept watch for them both as they met in secret to
express and exchange their love for one another. She went head to
head with her father to protect them both. Then the revolution began
and Marius and Cossette were parted, they feared forever. Epopine,
unable to bear the idea of Marius fighting alone, disguised herself
as a boy and joined him at the barracades.
Here the movie and
the play differ.
*SPOILER ALERT *
In the play:
Marius discovered Eponine's presence and commissioned her to bring a
letter to Cossette. Eponine did as Marius asks, but on her way back
to the barracade, she is fatally wounded.
In the film:
Eponine carried a letter from Cossette, but could not bring herself
to deliver it to Marius after she had joined him at the barracade.
She took a bullet for Marius and as she lay dying, confessed her
trangression and gave him Cossette's letter.
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| Wounded, Eponine comforts Marius as she dies |
In both: As
Eponine lay dying in Marius' arms, she softly tells him not to worry
and assures him that his presence is enough to make her feel no pain.
She comforts Marius and urges him not to fret (
“A Little Fall ofRain”). Then she dies, happily near her beloved during her last
moments.
Okay, so what does
this have to do with life smacking you down? Well, for starters, it
gives a beautiful example of how to face difficulty. When Eponine is
confronted with the tragedy of her life, which shows no sign of
improvement even in the most disdant future, she does not despair,
nor does she wallow in her sorrow. She looks at the reality of her
situation and faces it head on. She forces herself to recognize the
truth that the thing she wants, will never be. She does not try to
force her feelings on Marius, nor does she let her disappointment
serve as a motive to stand in the way of his happiness. She is
completely selfless on that front.
Now, some, might
accuse Eponine of being a bit of a doormat and somewhat pathetic, but
I do not agree. I believe that had she lived, she would have found
joy in caring for Cosette and Marius' children and in her own time,
after her heart had healed from it's dissapointment, I believe that
Eponine would've found her true love. But regardless of what she may
have done if the chance had been given, the fact remains, that in the
end, Eponine chose to think of others over herself. As a result, she
dies happy and full of peace, not hanging on to resentment, broken
dreams, or bitter longings.
Love is willing the
good of the other. Love is not getting your way or giving someone
else their way. Love is not allowing yourself to be used or to use
others. Love is self-giving, self-sacrifice, forgiveness, patience,
humility, hope, and so much more. Eponine chose love of another over
love of herself.
Her great love,
triumphs over her criminal lifestyle, her broken heart, her empty
dreams, and her tragic death. When people think of the character of
Eponine, then think on her with bitter-sweet recollection. She was
the girl who gave all she had for an unrequited love. And because
she truly loved, that was truly enough.
Epnonine had wisdom
too. She had the wisdom to know that her paths was never meant to
intertwine with that of Marius. She had the wisdom to know that one
ought not to put the pulls of loneliness about the pulls of
friendship. She had the wisdom to know that something bigger and
more important that her was at work in all their lives and the author
of that work would care for them all.
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| The spirits of Eponine, Fantine, and Valjean watching over Cosette and Marius |
Eponine's last
lines in the musical are, “And remember, the truth that once was
spoken, 'To love another person is to see the face of God.'”
So, to any of my
readers who are struggling with disappointment or hurt of some kind,
please know this: you are not alone. You're not the only one who
feels hurt, overlooked, forgotten, and/or rejected. How you respond
to it is your choice. You can make yourself a victim or you can be
the hero. Being the hero is difficult and probably no one will
notice, but you will find peace in the sacrifice you make for the
love of another. Being the victim keeps you sad, miserable, and
lonely. It also burdens those who love you.
Personally, I
believe that being the hero, or at least, trying to be the hero, is
by far the better way. I don't know that I've ever actually
succeeded on that plan, but I've always found that the simple act of
trying helps me get through the confusing, painful part. I find
Eponine's story incredibly inspiring and she is my favorite character
in Les Mis. She is beautiful, simple, and unimportant. She
is tragic. She is amazing.
Maybe one day
someone will be inspired by my story or yours. So, don't give up and
keep on trying to love better.
Love,
T
